The media is always putting women down. I know many strong women in my life and to help them keep their strength up, I have put together a little list of songs. A Top 10 of songs that reinforce the beauty, strength and courage of women.
Try by Colbie Caillat
My favorite lines are in the first part of the chorus. You don’t have to try so hard / You don’t have to, give it all away / You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up. And the clincher: You don’t have to change a single thing. Remember that ladies. The video really has a positive feel too with Colbie having her makeup removed.
What Makes You Beautiful by One Direction
A girl who doesn’t know she is pretty. Sound familiar? Lots of people around her can see it, but she can’t. “Everyone else in the room can see it, everyone else but you.” Remember ladies, you are beautiful.
Who You Are by Jessie J
Everyday women spend hours in front of the mirror getting makeup on and trying to make themselves perfect. We all put on facades of how we want the world to see us. Well Jessie J has a perfect message for you. “Don’t lose who you are in the blur of the stars! / Seeing is deceiving, dreaming is believing, / It’s okay not to be okay.” That’s right. It is okay to be screwed up, messy, imperfect, and human.
Bitch by Meredith Brooks
While this song is one of the older songs on the list, it should remind us all the things that women are. All the roles that women fill and are “expected” to fill. As a father, business owner, son, husband, and friend, I can only get a little sense of the hats my wife has to wear. “I’m a bitch, I’m a lover / I’m a child, I’m a mother / I’m a sinner, I’m a saint / I do not feel ashamed.” And neither should you. It’s okay to be angry, happy, sad, good and bad. Do not feel ashamed.
Brave by Sara Bareilles
She speaks to our fear. We are all afraid of confrontation. To say something that will incur the ire of those we love. To this Sara Bareilles nails it wtih “Say what you wanna say / and let the words fall out / Honestly I wanna see you be brave.”
Secrets by Mary Lambert
Even the opening line here is good. “I’ve got bi-polar disorder / My shit’s not in order.” Like who’s is? Really. None of us have it together even if we look like we do. And Mary nails it when she speaks about how we are taught to keep things in and “to hid the things we don’t like about ourselves.” Her answer, “I don’t care if the world knows what my secrets are.” Go girl!
Fuckin’ Perfect by Pink
Warning: The video opens with a “sex scene.” You should have guessed it wasn’t child safe from the title. While I am not a fan of using profanities (they are more effective when you use them sparingly) and Pink has never been known for holding back, I love her line at the opening of the chorus. “Pretty, pretty please, don’t you ever, ever feel / like you are less than, less than fuckin’ perfect.” Let it sink in. God loves you, you don’t need anything more than that.
Beautiful by Christina Aguilera
Women should get up every morning and sing this song to themselves. Like a mantra. “I am beautiful / no matter what they say / words can’t bring me down. / I am beautiful / in every single way.” Don’t compare your body, your hair, your make up or your life to the magazines, the news, or your friends. You are beautiful in every single way.
Fight Song by Rachel Platten
For all the things we keep inside. The secrets we keep and the judgments we take without saying anything. For the struggles of life day in and day out. For all the hours we work and the struggles we keep quiet. To all of that, “This is my fight song!”
Who Says by Selena Gomez
Its an old story. Someone says hurtful things for what ever reason. Why ever any woman feels put down or imperfect, this is the song for you to remember. Who says. Cause whoever it was, they probably aren’t worth your time. “Who says you’re not perfect? / Who says you’re not worth it?” Because everyone should say to herself, “I’m just beautiful me.”
Bonus Song: Always Look on the Bright Side of Life by Monty Python
Okay, so this isn’t really a song for women, its more tongue in cheek. If you have never seen the movie the Life of Brian, he is in about the lowest spot he could be in life, crucified. As he is hanging on the cross to die, to die mind you, the other convicts tell him to “always look on the bright side of life.” Really? You going to die and you decide to bust into a musical about looking on the bright side? Well, yes. What the hell else are you going to do? Feeling sorry for yourself won’t change it. Screaming foul and being a victim won’t make it any better. Suck it up and “always look on the bright side of life.”